DEALING WITH GUILT AND THE BLAME

THE BLAME

 

It consists of feeling that one has not acted correctly or that has not fulfilled the expectations that they had generated, thus disappointing other people or themself. It can originate within you, that not every time you bring to your mind a disappointment or something you did wrong, you look at your limitations and mistakes, you treat yourself with a terrible harshness, and that prevents you from moving forward and seeing the positive. When guilt has a real basis, sometimes if we make serious mistakes, that wrong past can be an impulse to improve, to learn and overcome that fall.

 

OBJECTIVES OF GUILT

 

Guilt sinks. It does not allow us to move forward. Some feelings of guilt can lead to severe moods. The origin of guilt can have various causes such as: failing a demand, acting upon taboos, the school, relationship with peers, malformed sexual issues, among others.

GUILT MAY COME FROM OUTSIDE

 

When your environment reminds you or points an accusing finger at you, for example in childhood “you should be ashamed”, “if you do that you make mom sad”, or in adulthood “you should have studied another career”, ” you should have seen it coming. “

 

ASK FOR HELP WHEN

 

° You feel that you are worrying too much and that it interferes with your work, relationships, etc., family and other aspects of your life.

° Your fear, your worry causes you discomfort and it is difficult for you to control it.

° You feel depressed, dealing with alcohol or drug problems or other mental health problems.

° You have suicidal thoughts or behaviors and if so, go to emergency treatment immediately.

 

SUGGESTIONS

 

  • Accept what has happened and do not deny reality.
  • try to understand what has happened in perspective.
  • work on self-esteem.
  • Be optimistic.
  • Look forward.

 

GUILT MAY ORIGINATE WITHIN YOU

 

Beware the negative inner voices, as the outer ones can be just as damaging to the mind and body. When you always bring to mind a disappointment or something you did wrong, you notice your limitations and mistakes.

 

You do not need an apologize to be able to forgive. Forgiving means that your actions no longer have influence or control over your emotions, it is an action more for you than for the other.

 

Remember:

If we do not forgive we can remain anchored in resentment, hatred and revenge. To forgive is to go back in time and return safely.

TIPS:

Forgive. Let go of all those thoughts that day by day invade your mind and make you angry, sad and incapable. Some ways to express your forgiveness can be to write a note expressing your feelings, then burn it, burn everything that hurt you, you can also imagine a conversation with this person and comment that you forgive him. Do it for your mental health. Follow the page so you can see more posts.

 

CREATED BY PSYCHOTHERAPIST DANIELA BATISTA

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