It is a fact that we all have “wounds” from our childhood. No matter how much our parents or caregivers tried, no matter how much they loved us, it could be said that we all have “wounds” that are usually created in our home.
You may wonder … What is an emotional wound? To answer this question, I invite you to imagine an event that produces an intense emotion in you, for example, pain, rage, loneliness, anger, fear, sadness… and that you cannot deal with properly. When that intense emotion sets in within you, an emotional wound is created. If we do not have the necessary tools to face these emotions, nor the appropriate accompaniments, we run the risk of “getting used to” feeling these intense emotions and not resolving them.
It is important and necessary to go to therapy to work on these wounds.
CHILDHOOD WOUNDS AND THEIR SCARS IN ADULTHOOD
Our childhood is so important that the experiences lived in this stage determine our quality of life when we are adults.
In psychology it is pointed out that there are 5 emotional wounds of childhood that leave their mark in adulthood.
The emotional wounds of childhood are a type of affective injury that prevents us from leading a full existence.
Its imprint is so deep that it even hinders interpersonal relationships and also incapacitates us to face problems with assertiveness and resilience.
Knowing how each of these emotional wounds is born and what each one consists of is important to be able to heal them.
Do not allow your wounds to transform you into someone you are not, it is time to heal.
- ABANDONMENT: Dependent, loneliness scares them, they feels the need to have the attention of other people.
- REJECTION: they feel that they do not belong, “my parents did not accept me as I was.”
- HUMILIATION: It is difficult for them to accept themself, they considers themselves a person of little importance and value.
- BETRAYAL: Control everything to avoid danger, strong, distrustful and possessive personality.
- INJUSTICE: Rigid, does not express emotions, hides what they feels, and tends to be a perfectionist.
Faced with the wounds of my childhood, I have two options….
Be a victim, suffer and make others suffer, or move forward and place my suffering in the past.
The emotional wounds of childhood are a kind of affective injury that prevents us from leading a full existence. Its imprint is so deep that it even hinders personal relationships, it also incapacitates us to face problems with greater ease and resistance, it is common for almost all of us to have one or more of them.
The signs of these psychological wounds are evident in several ways: Anxiety, depression, failure in affective relationships, obsessive thoughts, etc., greater vulnerability, towards certain disorders, sleep problems, defensive or aggressive attitude, insecurity, fear, distrust, among others.
Sometimes these wounds are due to a truly traumatic childhood past, while other times are due to distortions in the child’s interpretation of reality. We must remember here that children are very good at capturing impressions and having sensations, but very bad interpreting them.
Boys and girls are still immature people who do not fully understand everything that happens around them.
Emotional wounds originate at an early age and as a result of a traumatic event or experience (or appreciation of it) occurring in a specific way or over time and more or less constantly.
We have all made mistakes in our past. Maybe you suffer because of it. You must discover that the past is past. What you can do is learn not to make the same mistakes. In addition, the important thing is to understand that everything bad you did, you did because you were with that programming in your head. Yes, your traumas, your emotional wounds, your emotional deficiencies, your needs, your poverty, or abandonment programmed you that way. And you did it without having conscience.
But now you are another person, now you realize that today you would not do it like that. That is important … you are no longer that woman or that man of the past. That is why you must forgive yourself and reflect to follow your process of change. Repeat with me your free therapy of the week: NOW I AM ANOTHER PERSON. NOW I LOVE ME. NOW I FORGIVE ME. AND I DECIDE TO BE HAPPY.
(Write, copy, read, repeat, memorize. All week AND you will see the power you have to heal!)
Crying is necessary sometimes. When we reach the limit. When something hurts us. Crying calms you, crying heals you, crying cleanses you. Do not worry about the opinion of others. If it’s good for you, cry when you need to. If the world weighs on you, if a love is over, cry as necessary. And then smile. Because in life everything happens. And as always … YOU WILL SURVIVE IT ALL. DO NOT GIVE UP!
CREATED BY PSYCHOTHERAPIST DANIELA BATISTA